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Loving Yourself is a Rebellious Act

"In a society that profits from your self-doubt, loving yourself is a rebellious act"

Bikini by: elcyclothing

The term "She loves herself" is thrown around like an insult but I don't think it deserves all the bad press. Loving yourself has very little to do with ego. Loving yourself comes from gaining perspective and realising what is and what is not important, what is worth celebrating and what isn't worth entertaining at all. It's not that important that I'm wearing a bikini in April, but I love how I feel when I wear it. I love how pretty it is and how wearing it has me dreaming of summer and I love myself enough to put a photo of me wearing it online. Rebellion

Loving yourself often comes from facing overwhelming odds and overcoming them leading you to conclude that any future challenge you may face or criticism you might receive will pale in comparison. I've seen enough of this dark, twisted beautiful world of ours to know the difference between the things that speak to my soul and the things that don't really matter at all and I struggle to care when people criticize me these days because I struggle to see the significance in their flimsy grievances. After a while sharp words stopped being sharper arrows that stuck in my back and instead turned into feathers that I simply brushed off. Sure, they may collect around my feet but they pose no threat to me anymore. Maybe it's because I stopped looking for validation from other people and started working on gaining it from myself because although I love myself, I am also my own harshest critic

So people might be scathing of the notion of loving yourself but maybe that's because people are creatures of habit, they like things to fit into neat little boxes and they dislike what they don't understand. In a more personal sense my creative work is a fundamental expression of who I am as a person, an extension of myself and reflection of my emotions during the process. But occasionally people feel threatened by the love and pride I hold for myself, how comfortably I sit in my skin or how easily I sprinkle my words. It doesn't fit with their perception. But that doesn't make me love myself any less it just makes me sad for them and I don't mean in a condescending way but in genuine regret that life has shaped them like that. It doesn't make me want to stop loving myself and what I do, if anything it makes me want to take another photograph of me smiling my smile, run another mile on the treadmill, write some of my favourite words on a page and hold in my heart the hopeful anticipation that they will love themselves one day too

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  1. I can't even tell you how much i LOVED this blog post. I completely agree with every single word and i think you have addressed such an important issue! (also your blog header is super cute :)) I'd love it if you'd comment back xx

  2. You have an incredible body and I esp love your tattoo - I'd love to know what it says!! ;0) And yes I have to agree with everything you said, you are your own harshest critic so why waste time worrying about what everyone else says!?? I've said goodbye to the women in the mirror and I feel so much better for it! I no longer worry about what I see in the mirror...and why should I!?!? I'm pretty darn fabulously amazing actually!! haha!! xoxox

  3. Great post dear ! xoxo

    Vildana from Living Like V (I HAVE A GIVEAWAY ON MY BLOG SO BE SURE TO CHECK IT OUT) & Stalia Is BAE

  4. Great post Milly, you gotta love yourself before you can love anyone right? Nothing wrong with having a good attitude towards yourself! Good point about being your own 'harshest' critic, I'm the same! Ha! :)


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