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11.11.14

Why we should thank our Ex's

When a relationship ends it’s easy to reminisce on the good times, weep over the bad times and to get pretty irate about the things you lost. I for one will never get my lucky top back, namely because I saw his sister wearing it on Instagram a week after we broke up. Those Bastards.

 But what about the things you gained? And I don’t mean that nice watch he bought you. I mean the things money can’t buy. Things like the new bands you discovered - you now own every one of their albums. The TV shows he introduced you to - you've since seen every series, episode and feature film and managed to memorize a pretty impressive array of quotes. Or places he took you to - which you probably palmed off as your own discovery on your future dates. 


 My ex was an alcoholic with mummy issues but he also introduced me to the tattoo studio which has become MY studio, I'll never trust anyone else with my skin again. As well as a beach shack in Cornwall that do the best sweet potato fries I have ever eaten. Honestly, those fries were so good it was almost worth him stealing money from me.

Another would spend the majority of our dates in the bathroom, on the phone, threatening to beat people senseless between snorts of cocaine. Not being particularly enamored with the gutter glitter myself, nor the violence, he would thoughtfully stick on Flight of the Concords to amuse me whilst he was doing his best Phil Mitchell impression and it quickly became pretty much my favourite show. Ever.

Prince Charming number 3 spent the duration of our ill-fated "Relationship" cheating on me with his ex girlfriend. Luckily for me his brother held similar views on fidelity and I quickly formed a friendship with the long suffering girlfriend, mainly just to plot their deaths. That girl is now one of my closest friends and my daughters god mother.

You know that point in the night where everyone is getting shots and you would literally rather do a measure of whatever has collected on the mensroom floor than the dreaded Tequila/Sambuc options? Well that my friend is when I get a Blow Job. The drink. Not the sexual act. It costs pennies and is 97% sugar so I'd like to thank another of my exes for introducing me to that one even though, in the end I had to introduce him to the door for various infidelity/alcoholism and general "being a dickhead" reasons. Lovely chap.

So the moral of the story?

The next time you think about your ex's and the red mist descends, instead take a minute to silently thank them, mostly for the free stuff but also for the memories, for the bands, TV shows, drinks, venues, friends made and lessons learnt.

And thank them most of all for pissing off out of your life and leaving you to enjoy all of those things in peace.



9 comments:

  1. AMAZING POST!!! Love the quote!!

    XX,
    EE

    www.sparkleandslippers.blogspot.com

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    1. So happy you liked it! I love your blog :)

      Milly

      xx

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  2. I loved this post!

    www.ellenwarnerxo.blogspot.co.uk xo

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    1. Glad you liked it!

      Will be checking out your blog today <3

      Milly

      xx

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  3. Such a good post! I completely agree it's important to look at the things you gained rather than what you lost! x

    Under Blue Lights

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    1. Exactly! No point being bitter is there? Especially if you've on to better things :)

      Love your blog <3

      Milly

      xx

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  4. Fab post hun, always look forward and never back that's what i say and the quote is brill.

    Diana X

    www.aretrobombshellsloves.blogspot.co.uk

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  5. Great Post! Excellent as usual!
    Keep it up!

    www.vogueandwhispersx.blogspot.co.uk

    xoxo

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